How To Reduce Lying In This World: 8 NEVERs
Below are 8 NEVERs that will help you reduce lying in this World.
1:Never listen to election campaign promises!
2:Never read How-To-Get-Rich-Fast sales copies!
3:Never, never, never marry!
4:Never ask your employees why they are late!
5:Never ask project managers to write project reports!
6:Never ask investment seekers to prepare a revenue forecast!
7:Never ask others how you look!
8:Never ask your kids, "Do I look stupid?"
Turning Desire Into Wealth
1. Exact amount. Fix in your mind the exact amount of money you desire. It is not sufficient merely to say “I want plenty of money.” Be definite as to the amount. (There is a psychological reason for definiteness which will be described in a subsequent chapter).
2. Your input. Determine exactly what you intend to give in return for the money you desire. (There is no such reality as “something for nothing.)
3. Deadline. Establish a definite date when you intend to possess the money you desire.
4. Plan. Create a definite plan for carrying out your desire, and begin at once, whether you are ready or not, to put this plan into action.
5. Summarizing. Write out a clear, concise statement of the amount of money you intend to acquire, name the time limit for its acquisition, state what you intend to give in return for the money, and describe clearly the plan through which you intend to accumulate it.
6. Self-programming. Read your written statement aloud, twice daily, once just before retiring at night, and once after arising in the morning. AS YOU READ – SEE AND FEEL AND BELIEVE YOURSELF ALREADY IN POSSESSION OF THE MONEY.
Confucius about Relationships
Forget injuries, never forget kindnesses.
Respect yourself and others will respect you.
Never give a sword to a man who can't dance.
When anger rises, think of the consequences.
Do not impose on others what you yourself do not desire.
Virtue is not left to stand alone. He who practices it will have neighbors.
It is more shameful to distrust our friends than to be deceived by them.
It is not the failure of others to appreciate your abilities that should trouble you, but rather your failure to appreciate theirs.
Tsze-Kung asked, saying, 'Is there one word which may serve as a rule of practice for all one's life?" The Master said, "Is not Reciprocity such a word? What you do not want done to yourself, do not do to others."
Recompense injury with justice, and recompense kindness with kindness.
Have no friends not equal to yourself.
It is only the benevolent man who is capable of liking or disliking other men.
A youth is to be regarded with respect. How do you know that his future will not be equal to our present?
Osho about Love
How can people turn the human phenomenon of falling in love into a meditation?
IT IS THE EASIEST WAY. In human life, love is the closest phenomenon to meditation. The moment you fall in love with someone, what actually happens? What transpires between those two who have fallen in love with each other? They drop their egos -- at least for each other. They drop their hypocrisies, their masks. They want to be together, almost one soul within two bodies. That's the desire of love.
And this is a beautiful moment to change it into a meditation. Just nobody has ever told them. In fact, just the opposite has been told to them: that love is against meditation, so people who are falling in love can never become meditators.
THE SAME PEOPLE who make celibacy spiritual make love unspiritual, something dirty, condemned. But to me things are totally different. Love helps you to relax, which is part of meditation. Love helps you to be joyous, which is part of meditation. Love helps you, for a few moments at least, to be silent, which is the essential part of meditation. And finally, making love, if you attain to an orgasmic experience, gives you a glimpse of what meditation is, but it is millions of times more than this.
So to me, love is a basic experience which can help you to become meditators. The old religions have been preventing it, and they have been preventing it for a certain reason. If people can transform their love into meditation, then the priests and the churches and the synagogues are no more needed, then people are totally free. No spiritual leadership is needed. And there are millions of priests around the world, like parasites on humanity. And naturally they will give you wrong ideas, against love, and they will give you ideas for meditation, but because you don't have the basic experience....
LOVE IS JUST LIKE when you enter into a swimming pool, step by step you are going into deeper water. Then the floor of the swimming pool is divided in two parts, one for those who cannot swim, so the water is up to your neck, and then the second part for those who can swim.
But those who want to learn swimming have to learn in the first part, which is not for swimmers. They have to learn it there. Once they have learned, then slowly they will gather courage and enter into deeper water, because for a swimmer it does not matter how deep the water is; the swimmer is always on the surface. The water may be a hundred feet deep, five hundred feet deep, or five miles deep, it makes no difference to the swimmer. It makes a difference only to the non-swimmer. Beyond five feet, everything is death. But the swimming pool is one -- shallow, deep -- it is one. And the boundary line is only a line until you learn to swim.
To me, love and meditation are just like that. Love is the shallow space in a swimming pool, for those who cannot meditate. But that is the place to learn meditation. And it is the same pool, it is the same water, it is the same kind of phenomenon. You are just unable to go deeper because you have been made afraid even to enter into it. The shallow part has been condemned, and you have been told to jump into the deeper part without knowing how to swim.
So they disturbed your love life by condemnation and they disturbed your meditative life by sheer strategy: because you don't know swimming, you cannot go so deep. And you don't have any experience of silence, peace, sheer joy, a little bit of ecstasy, something orgasmic -- these will give you the hints how meditation is not a myth. You have tasted it a little bit. It is the same energy field, just you have to go deeper into it.
WHAT ACTUALLY HAPPENS when one couple moves into the realm of orgasmic experience? What actually happens? Every point has to be understood. Time stops. For a moment the pendulum does not move, and that single moment seems to be almost eternity. The two persons are no more two -- for a moment. They have melted into each other. There is no thought in the mind, for a moment. It is all empty and silent, and these are the things which have to be deepened in meditation.
And once you have tasted them, you will be surprised that it does not depend on the other person. Something happens within you. Something happens within the other person. But it is not dependent. If you can sit silently, if you can manage, by watching your thoughts, to bring a gap, a stop, you will suddenly see time has stopped again. And now it is in your hands, not in the hands of biology. You can keep this time stopped as long as you want. And once you know the secret key....
The key is: no thoughts, no ego, no time -- you just are.
That's why I have never been against love. I have been much condemned for it, naturally, because I was cutting the very roots of the business of all the religions.
EVERY RELIGION IS against me. Their profession depends on condemning love and praising meditation. They know you cannot attain to meditation, and they know now your love is condemned, it is a sin. You will never experience any orgasmic phenomenon, so meditation will remain just a philosophy, and your life will remain loveless, angry, full of rage, ready to explode at any excuse. Because where will your energy go?
It could have become peace, silence, joy, blissfulness. You did not allow it to become that. That repressed energy turns into poison. That's why everybody is irritable, annoyed, worried, tense. The simple reason is that they have lost the natural source of relaxation.
No animal looks irritated, annoyed, angry, because they don't understand the language the priests speak.
They have never heard that celibacy is spiritual. Of course they cannot attain to meditation, but they are far better than those human beings who could have attained meditative heights, but have lost even the simple biological experience of orgasm.
THOSE ARE SIMPLY indications of your possibilities, potentialities. And it is easier to experiment with something natural in the beginning and then to try something which is supernatural, which belongs to higher nature.
And once you know how to be silent, how to be thoughtless, how to be in a state of no time, no mind, you experience such orgasmic joy, which has nothing to do with sex, it has such purity and such innocence.
A man who has attained to that purity and innocence has no need of sex, it is no longer a psychological problem for him. But there is no prohibition either. He can enjoy sex too, and he will enjoy it more than anybody else, because his orgasm will immediately become meditative.
Having experienced the meditative orgasm -- such a greater phenomenon -- his sexual orgasm will immediately trigger the bigger orgasm. He can play with sex. There is no harm in it. There is no need, but there is no prohibition either. It is up to him.
THE MEDITATIVE ORGASM absorbs your sexual energy, because you don't have any other energy. Your whole energy is sexual energy, and that vast explosion of joy simply absorbs all your energy. Hence, you need not become a pervert, you need not make an effort to remain celibate. It is just your choice.
If you want to play old games once in a while, it is perfectly good. In fact, perhaps it should be a part of every enlightened man's life to have sex once in a while, because that will change the attitude of the whole world about sex.
Without that, it is very difficult to change. Then they can see that even an enlightened person can enjoy sex. There is nothing sin-like in it. And it will join the enlightened man and unenlightened man in a bridge. At least on one point, both experience the same thing....
Love is a natural kind of meditation. And meditation is a supernatural kind of love.
Spread Love
How To Realize Your Dreams
Realizing Your Dreams: The Four Principles
If it worked for the son of an itinerant horse trainer it will work for you. The principle is simple:
create a dream that is so big that it will keep you excited
define the dream in minute detail
live in the dream so that it becomes real to you on the inside, and then
hold on to it so tightly that no one can take it away from you.
4 Levels of Problem Solving
Two Approaches to Solving Problems
It has been said that 98% of personal or an organization's problems can be solved routinely.
However, the remaining 2% of the problems – the problems that have the greatest effect on you or your organization – require creative approaches or innovation to surmount.
Build cross-functional expertise and make outside-the-box thinking a habit to be able to find innovative solutions to old problems. Simple and effective solutions to many problems are often just nearby – waiting for you to spot them.
Focus on Solutions, not Problems
Your attitude is extremely important. When you think of problems you'll only attract more problems. When you think of solutions – you'll attract solutions and opportunities.
Approach the problem with the expectant attitude that there is an innovative practical solution just waiting to be found. Think positively. Be relaxed, confident and clear in your mind.
Your Best Tools for Effective Problem Solving
To be a great problem solver, you must be open to new data and ideas, respect the needs others, build trust, communicate clearly and honestly, listen actively, ask effective questions, be persistent and firm in your willingness to have it succeed.
Search for Opportunities
“Victory comes from finding opportunities in problems,” advised Sun Tzu, the author of the Art of War. See every problem as an opportunity if you wish to be a winner. Ask yourself what new abilities the problem gives you. Write down how the problem could be some kind of opportunity.
If your problem is one others share, it's a huge entrepreneurial opportunity. You can solve the problem for everyone. That is how many entrepreneurs get started.
Scott Cook, for instance, was frustrated with the poor quality of software designed to help him prepare balance sheets. He decided to start a software company to fix the problem. His company Intuit Inc. is now a multi-billion-dollar success story. It provides business and financial management solutions for small and medium sized businesses, financial institutions, consumers, and accounting professionals.
Do What You Love To Do and Make a Difference
Find your true passion and do what you love to do
"Sometimes life hits you in the head with a brick. Don't lose faith. I'm convinced that the only thing that kept me going was that I loved what I did. You've got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven't found it yet, keep looking. Don't settle. As with all matters of the heart, you'll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don't settle.”
Make a difference
"When I was 17, I read a quote that went something like: "If you live each day as if it was your last, someday you'll most certainly be right." It made an impression on me, and since then, for the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: "If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?" And whenever the answer has been "No" for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something."
"Remembering that I'll be dead soon is the most important tool I've ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything – all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure – these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart."
"Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of other's opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary
True Love
"We live in this world when we love it." – Rabindranath Tagore
"Love comforteth like sunshine after rain." – William Shakespeare
"Those whom the gods love grow young." – Oscar Wilde
"Nothing is difficult if you love what you do." – Vadim Kotelnikov
Targeted market
"True love doesn't come to you, it has to be inside you." – Julia Roberts
"Love your neighbor, but who is your neighbor. Your neighbor is the one who is sent to you from the Divine. Your neighbor can be one who is a total stranger to you from afar. Your neighbor can be someone living close to you. But what is true is that your neighbor is one of the Light who needs your support as much as you need his." – Jesus
"You don't have to deserve your mother's love. You have to deserve your father's." – Robert Lee Frost
Brief history
"Love doesn't make the world go round. Love is what makes the ride worthwhile." – Franklin P. Jones
"I never knew how to worship until I knew how to love." – Henry Ward Beecher
Milestones completed and future plans
"At the touch of love everyone becomes a poet." – Plato
"Immature love says: 'I love you because I need you.' Mature love says 'I need you because I love you.'"
10 Rules of Listening
Rule #1: Stop Talking!
You can't multi-task speaking and listening. If you're talking, you're not listening. This rule also applies to the talking inside your head. If you're thinking intently about what you want to say, you're not listening to what is being said.
Rule #2: Create a Space
Create a physical space. Focus on reacting and responding to the speaker. Create, too, a space in your mind for what the speaker has to say. Create a space between your thoughts. Think of listening as a form of meditation. Quiet your mind and focus your attention on listening.
Rule #3: Hold Your Judgments
How often we have passionately expressed a gut reaction only to become turned around and regret what we said after hearing more of the facts? Allow for a thoughtful pause between reacting, a space in which to ask yourself, "Do I have the whole story?"
Rule #4: Don't Be a Label Reader
People are unique. We tend to create labels like Liberal, Dead Head, Wise Guy, and think we know what's inside. Suddenly, we believe we know everything about someone, but they are not really all alike.
Rule #5: Open Your Mind
While we may not consciously feel the need to be right, we tend to have certain ideas about reality and feel groundless when they're threatened. Groundless now and then isn't a bad thing. Without it we can't break new ground or find common ground; it's okay to be unsure.
Wise Negotiation DOs and DON'Ts
Rule #6: Focus
When someone is speaking, focus. If you're paying attention, you'll likely be showing signs of focus – such as making eye contact – without thinking about it at all. Below are some of the ways we show we're listening.
Maintain eye contact. In the US, not making eye contact has the connotation of someone untrustworthy. But realize, too, that steady eye contact in some cultures is considered impolite or aggressive.
Give non-verbal clues. Nod, lean toward the speaker, take on the general demeanor of someone who is interested.
Encourage the speaker to go on. Especially over the phone, hearing no response feels like no one is listening.
Don't be a verbal trespasser. A verbal trespasser is one who interrupts or finishes the speaker's sentences.
Ask open questions. Open questions encourage the speaker. They elicit a more detailed response than closed questions. "What" and "Why" are usually helpful starts to open questions.
Summarize. Summarizing is often helpful, especially if you have had a misunderstanding, are unsure of expectations, or have just reached an agreement. Ensure that everyone is coming away with the same idea.
Rule #7: Visualize
Visualization is a technique that can enhance listening: a picture is worth a thousand words. One way to use visualization is to visualize what you are being told. Some people are more visual than others. If visualization is more a chore than a help, you may not be a visual person. But anything new takes some adjustment and might take a few tries before feeling natural.
Rule #8: Remember Names
The first step in remembering names is deciding that they are important to remember. Listen when you're told about someone prior to introductions. Repeat the names when you are introduced. Make associations to remember names.
Rule #9: Question
Going into a listening situation with questions in your mind will help you remember and, often, put information into the framework of your existing knowledge. Listen to body language and be quick to clarify assumptions if you are unsure or are getting a negative message. Observe. Listen. Ask.
Rule #10: Be Aware
We must be aware of the speaker, aware of verbal and non-verbal cues, and aware of our own listening strengths and challenges.
Great Achiever: 8 Habits
1. Do what you love to do
“Follow your passion, and success will follow you.” ~ Arthur Buddhold
2. Create an inspiring vision
"Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart ... Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens."
~ Carl Jung
3. Remember, there is no failure, only feedback
“Once you embrace unpleasant news not as negative but as evidence of a need for change, you aren't defeated by it. You're learning from it.”
~ Bill Gates
Develop a 'Can-Do' Attitude
4. Look for opportunities always and everywhere
"You have to recognize when the right place and the right time fuse and take advantage of that opportunity. There are plenty of opportunities out there. You can't sit back and wait.“ ~ Ellen Metcalf
5. Make decisions quickly
"We know what happens to people who stay in the middle of the road. They get run over.“ ~ Aneurin Bevan
6. Learn continually
“Live as if you were to die tomorrow; learn as if you were to live forever.”
~ Mahatma Gandhi
7. Strive to make people happier
“We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.” ~ Winston Churchill
8. Never give up
“Patience and perseverance have a magical effect before which difficulties disappear and obstacles vanish.”
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